How To Get Kids To Listen Without Becoming Frustrated

By Carolyn Long


Children have a lot going on, both on an emotional level as well as with what they have to do with their life. It is often difficult for them to listen to their parents and teachers. It is not always as if they are being disobedient. Very often, things become chaotic in their lives. Parents need to know how to get kids to listen without becoming frustrated.

Of course, this can be difficult when you are calling your child for dinner or you are trying to talk to them and they are busy in their own world. A lot of parents naturally become impatient and start to raise their voice. This is not very helpful because it can lead to a lot of conflict in the home. Some children become fearful of the parents.

When they are busy with something, such as an art project, they become completely engaged in it. They forget about what is going on within the home environment. They switch off to everything else, and parents don't always realize this. It is important for parents to connect with their child gently and make sure that they are listening before they actually start talking to them.

Children will start to learn about various orders and commands over time. However, they don't want to become fearful of the parent, thinking that they will become threatened in one way or another. Parents should exercise caution, using empathy and compassion when talking to their child. They will strengthen the bond between the parent and the child.

Sometimes it is best to warn the child that they need to do something or go somewhere in a certain time. This will give them a warning. It is also important to include a term of endearment, which reduces any sense of threat and will increase the warmth that the parent has for their child. The parent should also be ready for a reaction.

You have to put yourself in your child's shoes. It is not always easy for them to simply stop doing something. They may be bored or they may be feeling impatient. Some parents will merely tell their kids off in a case like this. However, you need to come across in a compassionate nature. Use terms of endearment so they are able to understand.

One can become impatient at times when children don't listen to what you are saying. You must realize that this is part of the development process and you need to stay calm. Take a deep breath and remember that if you start to become upset and raise your voice, the situation is only going to become worse.

Some children who battle hearing what you have to say, may also be suffering from something like autism or attention deficit disorder. If you find that they are switched off and you really can't get into their space, it may be a good idea to consult with a family doctor. They will refer you to a pediatrician. Parents need to handle the situation with a lot of love and encouragement, because it is not easy.




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